Death Café at St Joseph’s: Meet Lianne and Mimi

How did you get involved with the Death Café at St Joseph’s?

Lianne:
“I started working at St Joseph’s in 2018. Not long after, my supervisor Susan began running Death Cafés, which is how I first became aware of them. Over time, I saw the value they bring within the hospice and became more involved in running them myself.”

Mimi:
“I’ve been at St Joseph’s for just under two years, but I was first introduced to the Death Café as a trainee on placement here a couple of years ago. I attended a few sessions and really enjoyed them, and I also had the opportunity to help facilitate one which was a great experience. When I joined the team, getting involved felt like a natural next step.”

What do you think people gain from attending a Death Café?

Lianne: 
“I think they’re lovely. They’re a wonderful mix of a social space and a celebratory space. You’re there to talk about something hugely significant, which can feel nerve-wracking, and a lot of people worry the events will be morbid or upsetting. But when we facilitate the groups, we’re really clear about what the Death Café space is for and what it isn’t. The conversations are often full of laughter, with people from different backgrounds connecting and sharing their cultures.”

Mimi:
“We live in a very death-phobic society, and I think a lot of people would like to talk about death or have a space to do so. But those conversations can be really hard to have with loved ones or friends. Not always, but often it’s strangers who come to Death Cafés, and together they’re able to have intimate and really uplifting conversations. We have many regular attendees who come back multiple times, because each session is so different. It all depends on who you’re speaking with.”

What would you say to someone who is thinking about coming to Death Café but is unsure?

Lianne: “Like I mentioned, a lot of people might be put off by the name and think the event is depressing, but it’s actually a very positive uplifting environment instead. Absolutely come along and try for yourself, you’ll enjoy the cakes too we hope!”

Mimi: “It’s a totally safe and voluntary space, if you need a moment away from conversation you can definitely do that. We always get positive feedback from attendees telling us how much they’ve enjoyed it!”

Our next Death Café takes place this week as part of Dying Matters Week. It’s open to everyone, and we’d love to see you there.

Wednesday 6th May, 2pm – 3.30pm
Garden Room, St Joseph’s Hospice, E8 4SA

Find out more: Death Café – Wednesday 6th May